Use the Enneagram and the Gospel to Build a Strong Foundation
Becoming Us is a self-paced, online curriculum tailored for your Enneagram Type combination. It’s designed to help you and your fiancé align your relationship with the hope and truth of the Gospel, so you can prepare for the marriage you’ve always dreamed of.
No matter your Enneagram Types, there is a Becoming Us course built specifically for your relationship.
We created a personalized curriculum for all 45 Type combinations. That’s because the dynamics between a Type 1 and Type 3 can look very different than those of a Type 6 and Type 8, or a Type 2 and Type 4.
Each Type has specific Core Motivations driving the way they will relate to their spouse, so there isn’t a one-size-fits-all approach to building a solid relationship. (Marriage is an amazing gift from God, but it requires much more intentionality and work than dating!)
With your Type-Specific Course you'll...
Gain deeper understanding of
yourselves and one another.
You’ll discover how your unique personality Types and Core Motivations drive each of your thoughts, feelings, and actions.
Master healthy communication dynamics.
Uncover each of your communication styles and tendencies when you’re doing well and when you’re struggling. You’ll learn to improve the way you communicate with your partner, so you each feel heard and understood.
Foster a culture of compassion
in your home.
Learn how to plan to exercise more balance, self-control, and grace in your daily interactions, so you’ll be prepared for challenging seasons in your lives and marriage. Turn potentially hot-button issues or common misunderstandings into productive conversations that strengthen your marriage.
Get conflict resolution strategies customized to your personalities.
When marriage issues arise, from the tiniest aggravations to more serious disagreements, you can be prepared! Understanding what makes you and your significant other tick will be a game-changer when it comes to approaching misunderstandings and arguments.
Spark relational intimacy and joy.
Strengthen your relationship as you lay a foundation of mutual respect and connection. Your marriage will be stronger as you learn to affirm, support, and point one another back to Christ!
Hi, We’re Beth & Jeff McCord
We created a marriage course with all the Enneagram and Gospel insights we wish we had in our early years. Here’s our story.
We got married at the ripe age of 20. Full of optimism and dreams for the future, we were totally sure we’d easily have a happy and fulfilling marriage. We quickly realized that while our dating life had been rich and fun, having a healthy and thriving marriage was going to take much more work!
There’s always the potential for friction when you put two personalities with different perspectives, backgrounds, and expectations together, and we soon realized our honeymoon period hadn’t lasted as long as we’d hoped. We didn’t understand ourselves, one another, or the fullness we had in Christ, so we spent the next few years unintentionally creating unhealthy patterns. By our fourth year of marriage, we were frustrated and desperate for help!
The Gospel and the Enneagram changed everything.
We learned to recognize the ways we would each think, speak, and act when we were out of alignment with the Gospel. We discovered that much of the time, the root of our marriage issues stemmed from not truly understanding one another’s hearts, and insisting that our point of view be seen as right. We believe that if we’d had the tool of the Enneagram from a Gospel perspective earlier, it would have helped us to avoid so much pain and misunderstanding.
Imagine how your relationship would change if you really trusted the amazing news of the Gospel, believing that Christ is restoring you and your significant other. God has an amazing plan for your relationship, and He put you with your spouse - along with all your thought patterns and quirks - to accomplish His purposes. Challenges are inevitable, but when you learn to navigate them in a healthy way, you’ll experience transformational grace and abundant life.
No matter your season or personality combination, our heart is to show you how to grow into the individuals and couple you were created to be. And we do that while intentionally focusing on the intricacies of your Type combo.
What's inside
You’ll receive the encouragement and coaching you’d receive in months of premarital counseling in just 8 digestible online sessions. You can complete them at your own pace when it’s convenient for you!
8 Type-Specific
Coaching Sessions
Our Story + The Enneagram
Your Enneagram Types
Your Relationship Dance
The Gospel
Your Family of Origin
Your Communication Styles
Your Conflict Styles
Becoming Us
Coaching Session 1: Our Story & The Enneagram
We share our "Becoming Us" journey from broken to beautifully connected using the truth of the Gospel and the tool of the Enneagram. We simplify the Enneagram so you can use it to truly understand yourself, one another, and how it can work for you in your daily life and relationship. You’ll learn how to get back in alignment with the truth of the Gospel when you start to fall back into familiar, unhealthy patterns.
Coaching Session 2: Your Enneagram Types
It’s time to dive deep into each partner’s intricate personality. You'll uncover each Type's Core Motivations, so you can really understand why you both think, feel, and interact in particular ways. Then, you'll uncover when and how you’ve looked in the wrong places to get your core needs met, and where to look instead.
Coaching Session 3: The Dance
Changing your specific relationship dynamics, aka your "Dance" is the key to transforming your marriage. You'll uncover the unhealthy dances specific to your two Types, and how to transform them into the thriving dynamics your hearts crave. This is our most-referenced session!
Coaching Session 4: The Gospel
We’ll show you how to bring Gospel messages to the center of your relationship, so feelings of peace and intimacy can blossom in your marriage. This allows your connection with your spouse to grow and your passion to reignite.
Coaching Session 5: Family of Origin
You and your spouse have different expectations of what marriage should look like based on your backgrounds and childhood messages. In this session, you'll uncover how you interpreted those past messages through the lens of your Enneagram Type and how they are impacting your relationship today. You'll learn a simple acronym to combat unhealthy patterns and bring you back to your true identity in Christ.
Coaching Session 6: Communication Styles
You'll learn specific communications that work for your Enneagram Types, so you each feel heard, valued, and more deeply connected. As you learn how to better communicate with one another, you'll align your hearts and feel more understanding and love than ever before in your marriage.
Coaching Session 7: Conflict Styles
Learn how each of your Enneagram Types approach conflict so you can learn to fight well, with no more silent treatments, blow ups, and wounding words you can’t take back. We’ll equip you with Type-specific strategies for approaching your spouse when disagreements surface, and how to resolve issues in a constructive way.
Coaching Session 8: Becoming Us
Discover the secrets to regularly connecting, both emotionally and spiritually, with your spouse as you live out the big dreams you have for your marriage, family, and circle of influence. You'll discover how to love, affirm and support each other in ways that will make each of your hearts come alive. In this session, you’ll take all the Enneagram and Gospel knowledge you’ve acquired throughout the course to create a thriving relationship that inspires you and others and fulfills God's purpose for your marriage.
Personalized Workbook Tailored for Your Types
Your course includes a 64-page printable guide. It's
What Others Are Saying
You’ll Also Get Access to 5 Incredible Bonuses to Help You Build a Thriving, God-Honoring Partnership
"From Confrontation to Caring" Communication Formula
Use this simple 4-step formula to create a healthy communication dance.
A Resource on How
to Fight Well
to Fight Well
When storms in your relationship arise, you’ll be prepared as you learn exactly how to repair and recover after a conflict with your spouse. Learn what forgiveness really is and isn’t, and receive a 5-step blueprint for moving forward in compassionate reconciliation.
Discovering You Online Course
Dive deeper into the Enneagram with our Discovering You course (regularly $49). This curriculum will help you confirm your Type and use that knowledge to uncover how to live your best life and best marriage.
Enneagram Enhanced
Parenting Plan
Parenting Plan
If building a family is on your radar, this resource will provide valuable insights on parenting, including the positive things you bring to your children, and how to parent with more patience and compassion.
Swift Success
Strategy
Strategy
You’ll uncover strategies for creating a strong foundation for your marriage: ways to complete the coaching sessions together, ideas for how to apply the lessons long-term, and tips for staying accountable to each other with the things you’ve learned.
Get Becoming Us Risk Free
We’re excited about the impact this course can have on your marriage, and we want you to feel great about your choice. That's why you're protected by our 30-day money-back guarantee.
If for any reason at all you're not completely satisfied, get in touch with our team and we will give you a complete refund. It's that simple.
Frequently Asked Questions
Each video session is between 5 and 25 minutes. They are designed to prompt “dates” that are about an hour long. Detailed suggestions to facilitate these conversations are included in the Swift Success Strategy bonus.
While we would love for you to watch the video sessions together, we understand that’s not always possible. Even if you watch the video sessions separately, it can make a big impact on your relationship.
You can encourage your partner to take our free test to find out their Type by clicking here. It will only take them 5-10 minutes to complete.
Also, if during the videos you discover your spouse is a different Type, simply email our support and let them know your fiancé's correct Type and we’ll do a one-time exchange to get you the right course!
The video sessions are delivered online so you can access them anytime.
We also have downloadable resources to help you move through and understand the content, as well as transcripts for every session so that you can watch or read!
In just a few short sessions, you will gain a deeper understanding of yourselves and one another. You’ll then discover a direct path to healthy and productive communication and conflict resolution in your marriage. You’ll be equipped with knowledge and strategies for better supporting, caring, and pointing one another back to the truth of the Gospel and your true identities in Christ.
Start Working on Your Marriage Today!
We've learned that most couples wait 6 years before getting help in their marriage. That's 6 years of resentment, pain, misunderstanding, and desperation. You can experience the marriage you’ve always dreamed of, and a flourishing relationship with the person God created just for you.We’re praying for you and cheering you on every step of the way. -Beth + Jeff
